The promise of making it easier to find your �ideal� companion by letting you add filters to hone in on specific requirements has actually had the opposite effect, diminishing your pool to the point it becomes almost impossible to find anyone!

Before online dating existed, finding a compatible fit was far less clinical; you’d meet someone in real life, and if you enjoyed their company you might decide to on another date, maybe more. You would at least talk to someone before you’d go anywhere near finding out what their pet preferences were … and you’d then use your own judgement about whether you liked them or not.

There is increasing evidence that, in face-to-face meetings, we are subconsciously picking up clues about the suitability of future partners based on a wide variety of non-verbal information.

Online dating lures us with the false promise of an �ideal� partner so much that we apply filters that ensure we never get to meet that person in the first place.

If you’ve ever created an online dating profile for yourself, you know that it only scratches the surface of what you’re like. Continue reading “2. A profile is not a person” →